Yeah, switch the pushing one's self from complexity to precision? As far as exercises go, most any book will go from less to more complex. I am working on Stick Control (book.)
by “push myself” do you mean you play mostly fast or loud music?
If so then maybe you should work on slow stuff. Learn to count, learn to read, if you don’t know a drum part learn to write and transcribe and hunt the internet for charts, there is an amazing amount of content on YouTube in the pop realm.
Totally. Two bars on, two bars off. Loop for 5-10 minutes. Play daily.It's a long term project, starting with knowing what rhythm you're trying to play-- the combined rhythm of all the limbs-- and being able to count it accurately. Then you have to be able to make your hands and feet follow your voice, and not just do what feels good to them.
It helps to be able to stay with a metronome. If you can stay with it when it's giving you quarter notes, try setting it to give you just the 1 and 3, or just the 1.