Also remember there are boneheads like me that go out and mess up real bad in front of people all the time and we are fine, nothing so bad happens.
Same here. I avoid everything socially unfamiliar, and places with too many people. Parties, bars, grocery shopping, the mall, changing jobs is a nightmare, even talking on the phone to people I don't know. If possible, I rehearse everything, or make it so people avoid me or I can avoid them. It makes things easier in a not so easy situation. I feel your pain, social anxiety sucks.I have social anxiety
That's the thing Uncle Larry, it's not really a fear. It's a reaction to a situation, and something you have no control over. It's like being claustrophobic. Claustrophobics aren't necessarily afraid of the small space, it's the mental and physical reaction that happens once inside the small space. That's the part you can't control.Fears are self made illusions. They are phantoms. A phantom is defined as a figment of the imagination. A figment is defined as a thing that someone believes to be real but that exists only in their imagination.
Actually, un-earned bravado and inflated sense of personal skill will also cause you to not have nerves on stage. Maybe not cause you to actually play well, which is more associated with practice and humble self reflection.Yep, competence breeds confidence. There's no way around it really.
Try telling that to orchestral players at the top of their game...years of practise and study, every bar note perfect....but I bet some still get nervous.Actually, un-earned bravado and inflated sense of personal skill will also cause you to not have nerves on stage. Maybe not cause you to actually play well, which is more associated with practice and humble self reflection.
Congrats. You learned a valuable lesson here. You learned that it's ok to be nervous. You learned that life will not end playing in front of people. And you learned that you can actually do it and do it well. From here on out, you will find playing in front of people to be easier and easier.Thank you all It worked I freaked out at the start but I relaxed and I made 100