The people that I personally know that committed suicide had terminal cancer.
Sometimes just listening is enough. If my wife is depressed, I really dont need to say much if she feels like talking. I know it doesnt all work like that.While I always say Talk, I also, because of the feelings I still hold toward that situation make it hard for ME to talk with people when they are down.
Talking with a professional is a lot different than talking to a friend. You admit yourself that you find it difficult to talk with people when they are down. When people are down they feel like a burden on themselves and everyone around them and when they sense they are making someone uncomfortable it just makes them feel worse. Hence why I suggested not taking the burden of talking on yourself but guiding them toward a professional. I have a ton of experience on this matter so I hope you can take a step back and just listen and try to understand without taking offense.While I always say Talk, I also, because of the feelings I still hold toward that situation make it hard for ME to talk with people when they are down.
(Kinda pissed, kinda fed up...lots of feelings about it).
I know that kinda sucks, but someone kinda ripped me for saying "Talk" and then suggested getting them help getting counselling.
From my experience, counselling usually involves talk.
Yes, if they can they should seek professional help as they are trained to deal with these situations.People experiencing these negatives HAVE TO TALK!
I like the bucket analogy. My anger management therapist referred to me as a pressure cooker and that it's important to open the vent lest the cooker explode.Sometimes just listening is enough. If my wife is depressed, I really dont need to say much if she feels like talking. I know it doesnt all work like that.
Talking is important though. The other option is ruminating in your own self loathing. Obviously that second option isnt healthy.
My therapist says we are like buckets. A bucket can only hold so much water before you have to empty it. If you dont empty the bucket, it starts to spill over and ruin everything else. Talking helps empty the bucket, as does exercise, playing drums, hitting stuff, screaming (while alone, not at anyone), etc. Figuring out how to empty the bucket helps a ton.
I have to admit this hits pretty close to home. I have a 2 year old daughter, and my wife and I are struggling. My mental health has never been worse, and my wife's is plummeting. Being a self-employed musician doesn't help the stress levels either.
Hey, do you ship your stuff to the US? Looks like you have a lot of good material out there plus private lessons to boot!
I know every single dude on this web site is a mind bogglingly good professional player, but maybe they have, you know, friends who could use some help with their drumming. .