Hi Drummerworld community!
This is my first post here and I want to open a discussion about the above topic.
Let me start by saying that I love the drums! The thrill of playing live and the happiness when you learn new things is just amazing and never seems to wear off. I'm sure you all share my feelings, so you all know where I'm coming from.
Let me add by saying that I have recently become a married man! You know how much I love the drums? Well I love my wife just as much. Actually more, but for the sake of this post we'll just say equally.
With being married, a lot has had to change. I'm resigned to practice only on pillows and rubber pads. I don't have any room to set the kit up and I don't ACTUALLY remember what my cymbals sound like. Well a little, anyways, I'm not complaining. Pillows and rubber pads are good for practice and now I guess have more space for... Furniture and... Stuff. S'all good. Happy face. The main thing is, my wife is against me gigging. It comes from a money perspective and I can respect that, in Australia playing music isn't exactly lucrative. Another side note, she doesn't like the idea of me being out every weekend rockin' out. This could change but right now it's on the 'con' side of her list.
Here's my question to everyone who might have an answer - How can you have a family and play music?
Is there anyone out there in a similar situation to mine? Anyone who has overcome with dilemma? I'm a little bit desperate, drumming is what makes me me, and it would be a the worst shame to give it up.
Many thanks to all!
This is my first post here and I want to open a discussion about the above topic.
Let me start by saying that I love the drums! The thrill of playing live and the happiness when you learn new things is just amazing and never seems to wear off. I'm sure you all share my feelings, so you all know where I'm coming from.
Let me add by saying that I have recently become a married man! You know how much I love the drums? Well I love my wife just as much. Actually more, but for the sake of this post we'll just say equally.
With being married, a lot has had to change. I'm resigned to practice only on pillows and rubber pads. I don't have any room to set the kit up and I don't ACTUALLY remember what my cymbals sound like. Well a little, anyways, I'm not complaining. Pillows and rubber pads are good for practice and now I guess have more space for... Furniture and... Stuff. S'all good. Happy face. The main thing is, my wife is against me gigging. It comes from a money perspective and I can respect that, in Australia playing music isn't exactly lucrative. Another side note, she doesn't like the idea of me being out every weekend rockin' out. This could change but right now it's on the 'con' side of her list.
Here's my question to everyone who might have an answer - How can you have a family and play music?
Is there anyone out there in a similar situation to mine? Anyone who has overcome with dilemma? I'm a little bit desperate, drumming is what makes me me, and it would be a the worst shame to give it up.
Many thanks to all!