rogue_drummer
Gold Member
someone who knows absolutely nothing about music or drumming tries to tell you "how" to drum?
You know the type, the people who strike up a conversation with you and you start talking about music. You learn from them they don't play an instrument, never picked up a pair of sticks or guitar, or horn, never played keys, but then they learn that YOU are a drummer and all of a sudden, BOOM!, they turn into "know-it-alls" and start telling you this and that about drumming and what you should be doing, blah, blah, blah....
What is a safe way to get out of the conversation, or a safe way to remind them they don't play and shouldn't be giving advice. What or how is a kind, diplomatic way to get out of the conversation or redirect it, without totally pissing them off or being rude?
Reason I'm asking is because I've had those types come up to me at church after our band has played and start on me about drumming, the music, the choir, the sound system, how such and such's guitar is turned up too loud....
About the only time that left me steaming (okay, totally po'd) at church was recently someone approached me and regaled me on why the drums should be used sparingly and not on every song, how certain drums should be used here and there, etc. Real abraisive and totally over the top. Luckily my wife was with me and saw me getting ticked and pulled us away with an excuse.
Any advice? This may sound kinda petty, but it's starting to get on my nerves. Thanks!
You know the type, the people who strike up a conversation with you and you start talking about music. You learn from them they don't play an instrument, never picked up a pair of sticks or guitar, or horn, never played keys, but then they learn that YOU are a drummer and all of a sudden, BOOM!, they turn into "know-it-alls" and start telling you this and that about drumming and what you should be doing, blah, blah, blah....
What is a safe way to get out of the conversation, or a safe way to remind them they don't play and shouldn't be giving advice. What or how is a kind, diplomatic way to get out of the conversation or redirect it, without totally pissing them off or being rude?
Reason I'm asking is because I've had those types come up to me at church after our band has played and start on me about drumming, the music, the choir, the sound system, how such and such's guitar is turned up too loud....
About the only time that left me steaming (okay, totally po'd) at church was recently someone approached me and regaled me on why the drums should be used sparingly and not on every song, how certain drums should be used here and there, etc. Real abraisive and totally over the top. Luckily my wife was with me and saw me getting ticked and pulled us away with an excuse.
Any advice? This may sound kinda petty, but it's starting to get on my nerves. Thanks!