Magenta
Platinum Member
Personally I would feel funny being on the receiving end of a gesture like that. I think that qualifies as an ingrained sexist attitude that I hold doors open and the like. But that's OK to do that, no one has any issues with that part. So there's good sexist and bad sexist. Double standard. Doesn't sit well with me. Equal is equal.
Myself, when it comes to the sexes, I don't want perfectly equal.
I do want perfectly equal, but not necessarily exactly the same.
I also feel uncomfortable being on the receiving end of chivalrous gestures. I appreciate being helped if I'm struggling with something heavy, for example, but if it's something I can carry easily, I'd rather do it myself. Hell, Mr Madge watches me load and unload Marilyn every week. If I couldn't manage, I hope he'd help me, but I can so he doesn't, and he has never offered to. That's probably because he doesn't realise what a ball-acher it is: other musicians always offer to help me, and I always accept - and I always offer to help them too, and they always accept as well. But it has nothing to do with chivalry and everything to do with common courtesy.
Funny(ish) story: many years ago, when "nice girls" didn't drink pints, I was in the pub and asked for a pint and a half of lager, the pint being for Mr Madge. The barman asked "Is the half for a lady?" Completely at a loss, I replied without even thinking "No, it's for me." Which just about sums me up, I reckon!