Well, if you want to be someone who sounds like everyone else, that's your choice. As for me, being successful isn't the main reason I play drums and do music, and I think that money and fame is a very shallow reason to do music.
Why don't we just program drum samples to all music so it can be perfect and the producers can save cash?
For me music is self expression, you are the best you. You're never going to be a better vinnie, elvin, tony or bonham, so why can't you play with your own feel in others music, if it complements the music? That's my opinion at the moment. Playing for the music is alpha and omega of course, but why not develop your own style?
Sorry. I still don't think you're getting it.
BTW - I've done my fair share of MIDI programming back in the 80s and early 90s too for people, and that didn't bug me either. I didn't start down my path to make money, because in the beginning there is simply no money to be had. Nobody knows who you are, nobody cares what you know, so you do your best to meet people so you can get out there and show people who you are and what you have to offer.
Bill Buford put it great in a 1983 interview, when he said "I want to be able to play stuff in 17/16 but I don't want to do that in my closet", which could also mean that yes, you can be as much of an artist as you like, but you're not entitled to get a hearing from
anybody. Why should you?
I like to play, and I'll play anything. I don't have to sound like me, and in the end, like I said, those people who want to know, will know. And I'm happy with that. I just did a gig over the last two nights and one of the nicest compliments ever made to me by an employer was,
"you know, we always sound great when you're playing" and as I listen to the playback this evening, I wasn't trying to pee all over the music being made, I was giving them what they needed, and in the end,
that compliment is made. That's what it's all about for me. So in this particular instance, the people that need to know my artistic contribution, know about my artistic contribution.